Param Sundari, Alignment, and the Power of Value-Based Choices
- Sasha Tanoushka BCH IACT
- Sep 19, 2025
- 2 min read
The Courage of Choice
In the film Mimi, a young woman becomes a surrogate and faces immense pressure when circumstances shift. Instead of taking the easier route, she chooses to continue the pregnancy. This is not a film about taking sides in the abortion debate — it’s about a woman making a choice that aligns with her deepest values, even when it costs her.
That’s what struck me most: alignment. The way our decisions, when they flow from our values, give us strength. The way our mental health flourishes when we stand in our own integrity.
Alignment and Mental Health
When we live in contradiction to our inner compass, stress accumulates. Anxiety deepens. Our nervous system knows when we are betraying ourselves.
But when we choose from values — dignity, compassion, courage, love — even difficult roads become lighter. Alignment doesn’t erase challenge, but it transforms how we carry it. It keeps our mental health rooted in clarity and resilience.
Universal vs. National Values
Every culture has its traditions and norms — national values that shape our daily life. But beyond these sit universal values: compassion, respect, freedom, care. These are the threads of our shared humanity.
Living in alignment often means balancing the two: honouring cultural norms that bind families and communities, while also listening to the universal truths that guide our individual souls. Neither is wrong. The magic is in integration.
Collective Consciousness and Entanglement
Quantum entanglement shows us that two particles remain connected across distance and time. Human beings are no different. Our choices ripple outward — into our families, communities, and collective consciousness.
When one person makes a values-based choice, it strengthens the fabric for everyone connected to them. Mimi’s choice in the film is personal, but its resonance is universal.
Returning to Sri Lanka — A Personal Reflection
Being back in Sri Lanka has been a journey of reconnection. I see the traditions, the cultural rhythms, the importance of family ties — and I also notice where my personal values ask me to pause, reflect, and sometimes choose differently.
The task isn’t to reject culture or family, but to weave my own values into the fabric of belonging. To keep ties strong, while bringing in new threads of compassion, mental health awareness, and conscious living.
What I’ve learned here is that alignment doesn’t have to be defiance. It can be an offering — a way of living that honours heritage, heals generational distance, and models integrity for the future.
An Invitation
Where do your cultural or family norms intersect with your personal values?
How might alignment help you not only stay true to yourself, but also strengthen your relationships?
Can you imagine your values as a bridge — something that connects you to others more deeply, rather than separating you?
The tougher road is often the more rewarding one. Not because it is easy, but because it leaves us intact — whole, aligned, and more connected to the collective human spirit.
Watch Param Sundari here and reflect: where in your life are you being invited to choose alignment?
✨ Sasha Tanoushka | Verus Human Optimization
Exploring collective consciousness through values, music, and human connection
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